Trying new sex positions can add excitement to the bedroom and help rekindle intimacy. This is especially true for married couples with high libidos.
Adding sex toys and/or props to these positions can be a great way to increase pleasure and stimulate different areas of the body. But, remember that it is important to communicate openly, respect boundaries, and prioritize consent when exploring new sex positions.
1. The Reverse Cowgirl
As its name implies, this sex position involves the female partner straddling her male partner facing away from them. Like its Cowgirl counterpart, it’s a great position for penetrative intercourse but also works well for anal sex.
The top partner can graze the clitoris and vulva with their hands or use a toy to stimulate the anal area, says Mintz. “Because the partner on bottom is laying face-up, it can be easy to grab their thighs and pull them closer to their chest, which can also feel really good.”
Another perk of this position: The top partner can play with their feet. The feet can be tucked up or spread, depending on the desired level of intimacy, and the partner can scoot back and forth for added sensations. If the partner on top wants to rest for awhile, they can put pillows behind their head or sit up against a headboard.
This position is easy to learn, but it can take some time for the partner on top to build up enough strength and arousal to stay in it for long periods of time. It’s also important that both partners use plenty of lube, especially on the vulva to ensure a slippery ride. And while we all know porn stars wear spandex for a reason, don’t be afraid to use pillows to make the process even more comfortable and allow for better penetration control.
2. The Doggy Style
Doggy style is a popular position for many couples and it can be used for vaginal, anal, and cunnilingus sex. It’s also a favorite for a lot of men, trumping old standbys like missionary. This position allows for deep penetration and can be arousing to both partners. But it’s important that both partners are excited before attempting this position. It’s also a good idea to engage in foreplay beforehand to increase arousal and ensure there’s plenty of natural lubrication.
This is a great position for trying different sex toys, including dildos and strap-ons. It can also be fun to use nipple clamps and wand-style vibrators. But remember to always ask your partner if they’re comfortable and if they want you to stop. It’s their right to express aversion to this or any other sexual position and it’s important to respect those feelings.
The downside to doggy style is that it can be more difficult to get an orgasm. That’s because the person on top might end up thrusting too hard or too often. If that’s the case, you might want to try switching to a shorter or faster thrusting pattern to increase comfort. Also, because doggy style can allow for deep penetration, it’s a good idea to switch out condoms frequently. That will prevent bacteria from moving from the anus to the vagina, which can cause a urinary tract or yeast infection.