Like any sexual experience, anal sex can hurt if you rush into it, especially if it’s your first time. It’s important to use lots of lube and start small with a smaller plug or toy.
It’s also a good idea to practice on yourself before trying it with your partner. Masturbation can help desensitize the anal area and make it more pleasurable to touch.
1. It’s a form of intimacy
Despite what you might have seen in porn, it’s not just men who get pleasure from anal sex. For a lot of women, anal penetration can feel like a very intimate sexual experience. This is because the anus is a sensitive area that can be stimulated by various methods. For example, you can use your fingers or a sex toy and there are also special butt plugs that can be inserted into the anus for sexual pleasure.
However, it’s important to take things slowly with anal sex and always communicate with your partner. For example, it’s a good idea to use a water-based lubricant as anal sex can cause more tears in the skin than vaginal sex. You should also urinate and have a bowel movement after anal sex to help clear the area of bacteria. If you are at risk for getting HIV from anal sex, you should speak to your doctor about taking daily pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) beforehand.
For most women, anal sex can be uncomfortable or painful if you jump into it without proper preparation. You should start with self-exploration and then experiment with using your fingers or a sex toy to get the area ready for penetration. For the first time, you should use lots of lubricant and then gradually penetrate to find the Goldilocks spot.
2. It’s a form of stimulation
If you’re curious about anal play, you may be wondering what it feels like out there (er, back there). It can be a very intimate experience, and as with all sex, it takes good communication between both parties to make it enjoyable. It also helps to have personal lubricant on hand, and you should always take precautions with your hygiene. This means washing your hands, putting on latex gloves, and using a condom (if applicable) for anal penetration.
It’s important to remember that anal sex can be painful, and it’s not for everyone. The first time you have anal penetration is typically the most uncomfortable, but it gets better with practice. If you’re feeling pain, it could indicate that your anus isn’t a good candidate for penetrative play or that you’re not properly lubricated. It’s okay to stop anal penetration if you feel pain or pressure—it’s always safer than getting an infection.
Fortunately, there are plenty of anal sex toys on the market that can desensitize your anus. There are silicone and glass options that are designed to fit in your anus, which can help you explore sexual stimulation without having a penis inserted. Many people find that a butt plug is the most comfortable option, but you can also work your way up to a penis or dildo, and even a strap-on.
3. It’s a form of pleasure
For some women, the anal area is a source of sexual pleasure. It may be because of the stimulation in the genital sensory cortex or simply the desire for something different from what they have experience with their vaginas. In fact, one study found that almost half of women reported finding pleasure in the anal area and two-thirds of those said it made other sexual stimulation more pleasurable.
It’s important to be open and honest about anal pleasure with your partner, especially if you are a woman who is just starting to explore this area. And remember that you should always use protection no matter what. It’s also good to begin with anal masturbation to get your body ready and learn how your anus feels before introducing it to penetration.
It’s also important to go slow during anal play, both with yourself and your partner. It takes time for the anal sphincter to relax, and rushing can cause pain. If you are uncomfortable, stop and try again later or try something else that is more pleasurable. There are also many anal sex toys available that can help you desensitize your anus and make it more comfortable. Start small with a finger and work your way up to anal penetration at your own pace. And don’t forget that anal sex can be as erogenous as any other part of your body.
4. It’s a form of relaxation
The anal area is full of sensitive nerves that are connected to the genitals, so stimulating it feels good. But before penetrating the anus with a finger, penis, or sex toy, it’s important to make sure the area is fully relaxed. That’s where anal massage can help. A gentle touch on the outer ring of the anus can encourage it to relax, making penetration much easier and safer. It’s also a great way to build confidence before moving on to something more intimate.
When doing anal play, always go slow and use plenty of lubricant. A little discomfort is normal, but if it becomes painful or uncomfortable, stop playing and let your partner know how you’re feeling. It’s also a good idea to wash everything that comes in contact with the anus after each sexual experience. This helps reduce the risk of bacteria entering the urethra, which can lead to UTIs.
While anal sex is not for everyone, it’s an option that can feel good for many women. The key is to start slowly, work up to it, and find a partner who is willing to communicate openly and take feedback from their partner. Remember that anal sex is not safe for everybody and should never be used as a substitute for oral, manual, or vaginal sex.