Some women report having orgasms from anal sex, but only in conjunction with other sex acts. Women also get orgasms from oral sex, vaginal sex and partnered masturbation.
Anal play can be fun with a partner or alone and lube is essential because the anus doesn’t self-lubricate. Try combining anal play with external clitoral stimulation with a sex toy or your fingers for a mind-blowing blended orgasm experience.
1. Stimulate Your Anus
The anus is packed with nerves, and is particularly sensitive to stimulation. It’s linked to the pudendal nerve, which carries sensation to the vagina, labia, and clitoris in women, as well as the rectum, scrotum, and penis in men. The anus also stimulates the g spot, which can lead to orgasms when triggered by sexual stimuli.
Stimulating the anus can be done with a finger or sex toy, or through masturbation with the anal hole open. It’s important to always use plenty of lubricant to prevent irritation and friction. Washing hands afterward, if using a finger or sex toy, can also help reduce the likelihood of bacteria entering the anus and causing UTIs.
While achieving an orgasm from anal play is a personal experience, it’s also important to remember that all bodies are different. To increase the chances of a successful anal orgasm, Ward suggests that partners experiment with different positions and techniques, warm up the area by massaging the butthole with a finger or sex toy (try anal beads), communicate about how it’s feeling, and take safe sex precautions.
2. Go Slow
Whether you are a woman or man, anal stimulation can be very powerful. The anus has high-density nerve bundles that connect with the clitoris and vagina. Stimulating them can result in orgasms as intense as those experienced in the vagina.
But it is important to go slow when using an anal cock. Like any other sexual activity, anal sex needs to be carefully planned and done at the right pace for the partner involved. It is also important to use plenty of lubrication and always be sure to use condoms for any penetrative play. Bacteria can enter the anus and cause UTIs if not properly cleaned after each use.
If you are a beginner, start by using your finger dipped in lube to enter the anus and gently stroke and massage. When she is ready, you can try penetration a little at a time. Be sure to talk to her throughout the experience and listen to her if she wants to stop or go further. This will help both of you to get the most out of your anal play and minimize any discomfort or pain.
3. Be Prepared
Women can orgasm from anal stimulation, but this type of play should only be done with a partner in a safe and consensual setting. It’s important to use lots of lube and take it slow so you don’t hurt yourself or your partner. It’s also a good idea to use toys and to try different anal positions.
For cisgender women and people assigned female at birth, anal penetration indirectly stimulates the A-spot in the vagina, which is packed with erotically charged nerve endings. This area is similar to the P-spot in men, which produces orgasms when touched or penetrated.
Practicing anal pleasure on your own is a great way to explore what feels good to you. You can use a small butt plug, like our Novice Plug, or even your finger to find out what kind of stimulation works best for you. It’s also a good idea not to pass accessories back and forth between partners and to wash your hands before and after anal stimulation. This helps prevent the spread of STIs like HIV, herpes, and genital warts.
4. Keep Your Partner in Mind
For many couples, exploring anal play is part of sexual exploration, so it’s important that you and your partner take the time to figure out what feels good. This can include foreplay, like touching and kissing the area around the anus or masturbating the anal opening with a finger or butt plug, and even adding anal penetration to your sexual routine.
If you’re planning on adding anal penetration to your relationship, start slow and use plenty of lube. You can also experiment with different toys, like vibrators and wands that are designed specifically for the anal area, recommends Gonzalez. Just make sure you keep communication open with your partner and respect their boundaries.
It may take some practice to get a feel for the anal cavity, but once you do it can be intensely pleasurable. In fact, 41% of American women have self-reported orgasms from anal play in a survey conducted by a popular camming site, according to a report from CAM4. For men (or anyone assigned male at birth), stimulating both the penis and prostate is the key to achieving anal orgasm.
5. Try Something New
If you and your partner have a routine that usually gets you to orgasm, try adding anal play. This might mean a butt plug or finger play, or you might want to try penetrative anal play with a finger or sex toy. Just be sure to use plenty of lube to prevent irritation and increase the pleasure.
For women, anal insertion stimulates high-density nerve bundles in the anus and along the clitoris lining, similar to how a woman’s g-spot or deep spot would be stimulated during vaginal sex. This results in orgasms that are both long and intense.
It’s important to remember that anal orgasms are just as pleasurable as any other sexual sensation and shouldn’t be a taboo subject. Just remember to communicate with your partner before, during and after any anal play to ensure everyone’s comfort level and safety. Using proper technique, ample lubrication and starting slow can make orgasming from anal sex easy and fun for both partners. Enjoy the experience and keep up the good work! Gabrielle Kassel is a health and wellness writer committed to helping people feel their best in their bodies. Her work has appeared in Men’s Health, Well+Good, Greatist, Self and more.
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