While anal play can feel really good, it’s important to keep in mind that it might also cause some less pleasant side effects. That’s because if you don’t use enough lube, the tissue in your anus could tear.
And, if that happens, it might lead to diarrhea. Fortunately, there are some things you can do to prevent this from happening.
Bleeding After Anal Sex
The pain and bleeding you may experience after anal sex is not always a cause for concern. In fact, a little bit of bleeding after anal penetration is very normal, especially if it’s your first time bottoming or if you engage in rough play. However, if you see bright red blood or your stool is black and seedy, this could be a sign of more serious issues like anal fissures or hemorrhoids.
Hemorrhoids are swollen blood vessels in the anus and rectum that can become irritated by pressure or friction. You can get anal hemorrhoids from constipation, pregnancy, or any activity that causes straining. Bleeding after anal sex can be caused by going too deep, rough play, or not using enough lubricant.
You can help prevent anal sex bleeding by making sure to use a lubricant that is safe for anal penetration, such as a water-based gel or silicone lube. Avoid oil-based lubricants, which can break down condoms and increase your risk of sexually transmitted infections. Instead, try a lubricant that’s designed for anal sex, which you can find at most sex shops and online. You can also reduce your risk of anal sex pain and bleeding by being patient and gradually increasing the depth at which you go. Start out shallow and work your way up to a more comfortable level over hours, days, or weeks.
Diarrhea After Anal Sex
Anal sex isn’t for the faint of heart, but if you’re into it, there are some things you should know. It’s possible to get diarrhea after anal sex, especially if you have a stomach condition like Crohn’s disease or ulcerative colitis. In some cases, anal sex can also cause rectal bleeding or a tear in the rectum tissue. Fortunately, these types of problems are rare.
If you’re anal sex newbie, try to use a lot of lube, and only use latex condoms. This helps cut down on friction and the risk of a tear. Also, consider changing positions frequently to avoid too much pressure on the rectum. For example, missionary position might be anatomically and physically possible, but it’s not the most comfortable for many people. Try spooning or doggy style instead.
As for diarrhea after anal sex, it’s not as common as rectal bleeding but is possible. It happens when the rectum muscle that controls your bowel movement gets stretched during anal penetration, and the muscles of your lower GI tract aren’t able to absorb your waste as quickly as usual.
If you’re dealing with diarrhea after anal sex, it’s best to take it easy for the rest of the day and drink plenty of water. Then, you can expect your bowels to settle back down the next day.
Fecal Incontinence After Anal Sex
According to Rena Martine, a women’s intimacy coach and educator, anal penetration can cause you to lose control of your bowel movements. It’s possible if the penetration damages nerves that regulate bowel movement control, which can happen if anal penetration is done incorrectly or is excessively long.
Lack of lubrication can also increase the risk for friction-related tears in the lining of the anus and rectum, she says. These tears expose the skin to stool that naturally contains bacteria and can lead to anal abscesses, a painful, deep-seated infection that requires antibiotic treatment. To avoid this, use a water-based lubricant before anal sex and change condoms when moving from anal to vaginal sex to minimize bacterial exposure.
A large study analyzing national health survey data found that anal intercourse is linked to fecal incontinence, a condition where you lose control of your bowel movements. The researchers suggest that anal sex increases the likelihood of this because it can damage the sphincter muscle in your anus, which has nerves that control bowel-movement control.
Abdominal Pain After Anal Sex
Anal sex can cause a lot of pain and discomfort, especially if it’s done too aggressively or without lots of lube. This can lead to muscle strain or a swollen blood vessel that causes pain in the rectal area, which might be felt in the stomach area.
Using too much pressure, penetrating too deeply, or getting anal sex too soon after having a bowel movement can also cause this type of pain. This is because the muscles in your anal canal are tight and may need time to relax after you poop or have a bowel movement.
Anal penetration isn’t easy because the anus doesn’t make lubrication like your vagina. That’s why you should always use lots of lube before and during anal sex, and you should start small with a finger or small toy to ease into the zone. You should also be sure to eat a light meal before having anal sex, and you should try to go on the toilet beforehand so you can clean out your rectum with a bowel cleanser.
Some pre-existing conditions can also contribute to stomach pain after anal sex, including gastrointestinal concerns, such as irritable bowel syndrome and inflammatory bowel disease. Additionally, emotional and psychological factors can trigger or exacerbate stomach pain after anal sex. These include anxiety, sexual trauma or fear, and stress.